Love can be either the most amazing feeling in the world, or the most terrifying, but somewhere in the middle, lies a happy medium, an unconditional love, the most sought-after type of love, which people can spend their entire lives in search of. But alongside that great type of love, is also the saddest, unrequited love, AKA “This cretin doesn’t love me back but I can’t stop my emotions..I will MAKE them love me!” No, you won’t, accept it, learn, and move on, theres more fish in the sea, and unfortunately, you cant force people to love you, believe me, I’ve tried.
Fortunately for you, I have experienced it ALL, so allow me to be your test subject yet again. Until two years ago, I never thought I wanted a relationship again; I went through two breakups in my life, I wont go into detail, but they were both equally difficult to deal with. It often seems like the end of the world when you’re in the middle of it all, but did you know, that the place where a bone breaks, becomes the strongest part after healing? That’s right, we get over it, we grow stronger, but we never forget the pain that came with the territory and the time it took to become whole again.
Intimacy isn’t the only type of love either, I have loved friends so much that when we outgrew our friendships, it was some of the worst pain I have ever experienced, its a hard part of growing up, moving on without someone, but sometimes you need to let people go, in order for them to become the person they were meant to be. I have realized it’s important to be able to cut anything toxic from your life, if you’re not building each other up, sometimes the best thing to do is end a friendship, have you ever done that? I have a few times, it’s really difficult, but the heart can only take so much let-down and hurt before shattering, you learn and you grown each time you go through the hurt, and I think that the hope for everyone is to find that fairytale kind of love, a love that deserves its own parking spot, or show on MTV, its a special feeling, that everyone is deserving of, and something that I am very fortunate to have in my life.
We as humans were made to love, we were not meant to live alone in solace, we were meant to bask in the sun and create our own happiness. Whether you are gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, pansexual, or questioning – whether you love a friend or a partner, a crush, or just your parents, hold it close, and never let it go until you have to. You deserve the right to love the person you are happy with, or if you love pizza, you deserve that right too…send me a slice. Share your story on love and loss in the comments below, I want to hear them! And as Rupaul once said, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gunna love somebody else?!” Can I get an AMEN?!
Ps: I love you